How to Support Someone Who Is Struggling With Their Mental Health
When someone you care about is struggling with their mental health, it can be hard to know what to do.
You might worry about saying the wrong thing. You might want to make things better but have no idea how. Or you might feel like you need to find the perfect words.
You don't.
Supporting someone isn't about having all the answers. Often, it's about helping them feel heard, cared for and a little less alone.
Here are some ways you can show up.
1. Listen without trying to fix everything
When someone tells you they're struggling, your first instinct might be to offer advice.
Sometimes what they need first is simply someone willing to listen.
Give them space to talk. Let them set the pace. Try not to immediately compare their experience to your own or search for the silver lining.
You can say:
“I'm here. You can tell me as much or as little as you want.”
“That sounds really difficult.”
“Do you want me to listen, or would you like help thinking through what to do?”
You don't need the perfect response to be supportive.
2. Remind them that they matter
Difficult seasons can make people feel isolated, burdensome or disconnected from the people around them.
Don't assume they already know how much they mean to you.
Tell them.
“I'm really glad you're here.”
“You matter to me.”
“You don't have to go through this by yourself.”
“I love you.”
A few simple words can carry more weight than we realize.
3. Ask what support would actually help
Different people need different things.
One person may want to talk. Another may want company without talking at all. Someone else might need practical help more than emotional advice.
Try asking:
“What would feel helpful right now?”
Or give them options:
“Do you want to talk about it, get out of the house, or just hang out and think about something else?”
Letting them have a say in how they're supported can matter too.
4. Offer practical help
When someone's struggling, ordinary tasks can sometimes feel much harder than usual.
Instead of saying only “Let me know if you need anything,” consider offering something specific.
Bring them dinner.
Pick up groceries.
Walk their dog.
Drive them somewhere.
Help with an errand.
Sit with them while they make an appointment.
Sometimes support looks less like finding the right words and more like making Tuesday a little easier.
5. Keep treating them like them
Someone's mental health is part of what they're experiencing. It isn't their entire identity.
Keep inviting them places.
Send them the meme.
Watch the movie.
Go for your normal walk.
Talk about things other than how they're feeling.
Support can mean making room for what someone is going through without making every interaction about it.
6. Keep checking in
Support shouldn't disappear after one conversation.
Send the text next week.
Ask again.
Invite them even if they said no last time.
Remember the date they told you they were worried about.
You don't need to constantly ask, “How is your mental health?”
Sometimes:
“Thinking about you today.”
is enough to remind someone they're still on your mind.
7. Encourage additional support when they need it
Being a good friend, partner or family member doesn't mean you have to become someone's therapist.
If they're struggling significantly or for an extended period, encourage them to consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional or another appropriate source of support.
You might offer to help them look for resources, make an appointment or sit with them while they make the call.
And if you're concerned that someone may be in immediate danger or unable to keep themselves safe, seek urgent professional or emergency support where you live.
You don't have to say the perfect thing
One of the biggest things that stops us from reaching out is worrying we'll get it wrong.
But support doesn't require a script.
Listen.
Believe them.
Show them you care.
Ask what they need.
Keep showing up.
And remind them, in whatever way feels natural to you:
You matter. I'm here. You're not alone.
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More mental health support
If you or someone you care about needs additional support, we've gathered mental health organizations, crisis resources and other places to start on our Mental Health Resources page.
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Sources & further reading
This guide is informed by guidance from the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and NHS Every Mind Matters.